Telling your children you are getting a divorce, separating or splitting up.
Back in 2014 according to a survey by Relate, 58% of separated parents stated they don’t believe in a ‘good separation.’
Breaking up is extremely hard to do, even if you know it is the right thing. One concern can come in the shape of how you will communicate this to your child or children.
One thing you can do is really listen to your child. Hear what they are saying and how they are saying it, their fears and worries. Their behaviour change may be a reaction to the changes in their life around them. As you may be fearful of the change, so may they. Let your child express their worries and fears to you. It can help you identify any bad feelings they have of themselves and work together on boosting self-esteem.
It can help to reassure your child. Letting them know that the separation was not their fault and tell them often that you love them. It’s important to be positive about their other parent too and let your child know that they also love them.
https://www.relate.org.uk/relationship-help/help-separation-and-divorce/dealing-childrens-feelings-and-behaviour/ask-ammanda-how-do-i-tell-my-grown-children-im-getting-divorce
https://www.relate.org.uk/about-us/media-centre/press-releases/2014/1/21/58-separated-parents-dont-believe-good-separation